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5 Biggest Mistakes An EFT Therapist Can Learn From

EFT Brighton Tapping GroupI’ve been working as an EFT (tapping) therapist in Brighton since 2006. In that time I’ve seen hundreds of clients and have felt the ripple or should I say tidal wave of change in my own life.

As I’ve changed so has the way I view my practice. I’ve also come to realise that each EFT therapist works in a different way, based on their own life experiences. I have added to my own practice techniques which sit comfortable with me. This is the only way a therapist can truly believe in the techniques they offer.

For me, being an EFT therapist has been a wonderful experience and I still love the work I do. However, I sometimes look back and think I could have done things a little bit differently.

So, here are 5 of the biggest mistakes (or life experiences) that I have learned from…..

  1. The problem probably won’t go away in just 1 session

    EFT is often hailed as a wonder therapy. I know when I first qualified and began using EFT I met many people who wanted me to help them tap on their long-held issue and expect to be healed in 15 minutes. I must admit, I saw some people who had immediate pain relief but that pain was a symptom of something deeper, at core level. I also saw clients who were left disappointed because they still resented their partner after 1 hour of tapping!

  2. Relax, you don’t heal anyoneI used to feel under pressure to help or even heal the clients I saw. I remember one client who came for a session and told me that unless he cried he would deem the session a failure. The session lasted 1 hour and he cried with just 5 minutes of the session left. He was relieved, I collapsed in a heap when he’d left – oh the pressure! It took me a while to realise that the real relationship in any therapy session is between The Universe and the client. The therapist is there to feedback and more importantly to step back and allow the client to peel away the emotional layers of their problem.
  3. Create your own therapy pathI used EFT as per manual for the first 6 months. I was afraid of deviating from the pure method because I thought that anything else I added to my EFT practice would dilute it and make it less effective. It was boring! I knew in my heart that if I added certain tweaks to my practice it would grow. It took time to discover new techniques that felt right to introduce into my practice. Looking back, I’m so glad I did. I now have a range of tried and tested therapy tools that effectively enhance my EFT sessions.
  4. It’s not your place to take sidesIf you find yourself agreeing with your client and even supporting her point of view then it’s important to step back. You may share a similar issue to the client that needs healing and asking leading questions or even feeding back what the client has said in a suggestive manner will not help the client. Similarly, If you feel repulsed by what your client has said and can’t see any positive in his abusive behaviour towards his wife then it’s important to remember the relationship between The Universe and the client. Let The Universe sort it out and keep out of it by allowing the client to express themselves. As the saying goes, ‘we don’t know anyone’s background until we have walked for a while in their shoes’.
  5. EFT is powerful even if you only did a weekend course in itSoon after my first EFT training I went from the high of being a therapist in possibly one of the most advanced therapy techniques the world had ever seen to someone with a few days training and little experience. My world collapsed around me when I ran a stall at a therapy show and began rubbing shoulders with other therapists who had many years of training under their belts. To be judged by the length of my training was a bitter pill to swallow. It took a while to get over but it made me realise how much I wanted to be a therapist and someone who could help others on an emotional level. I kept going in spite of my inexperience and found that the proof was in the pudding so to speak. I saw my clients’ emotional state improve and develop, that was enough for me!

Go out and grow, let the energy to flow, because you don’t know where you may go…

 

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EFT And Ho’oponopono Discounts And Events

Free 20 minute EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) phone consultation with John Blosse (AAMET Advannced EFT Therapist)

EFT involves tapping on energy points with our fingertips in order to release the emotion you feel from issues and unwanted events in your life. There is plenty of research into how effective it is.

I encourage clients to use EFT at home between sessions. In fact, therapy sessions are seen as milestones to the work the client does on themselves at home using this easy to learn technique.

To book a free 20 minute consultation or a 1 hour  EFT session was £40 now £30 (offer ends January 31st) please contact John on 07533 991 731 


ho'oponopono imageHo’oponopono – for better family relationships

Workshop at The Dharma School, Brighton
Saturday 7th February 2015, 10am – 1pm
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Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world

Ho’oponopono is an ancient healing process practised for centuries in Hawaii. Memories are constantly replaying in our subconscious mind shaping the events in our lives.

We are the projectionist, our memories are the movie and our world is the screen.

When we take 100% responsibility for our events and the emotions they bring up inside of us, we step out of victim mode. By making an appeal to The Universe through unconditional love we develop more trust and allow The Universe to take care of our issues. The unwanted events then stop happening in our lives.

Workshop Theme

We see the negative emotion from trauma in our life events and relationships

When we become 100% responsible for negative emotion we move out of the victim state

Saying ‘I love you’ to The Universe transmutes unwanted energies to pure light

Unresolved trauma follows us around

For  more information please contact John on 01273 241204 or 07533 991 731 

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EFT Works And I Don’t Need To Know How

EFT worksI don’t know how EFT works and neither do I need to know. We can talk about neurotransmitters and brainwaves but these are just words to me. I know EFT works. There is an inner wisdom that knows and is something we all have.

If we tap and are thinking about the external process the internal process is lost. The connection within that says ‘trust me’ has to be established for healing and we need to quieten the mind.

When we connect to our inner wisdom we put our faith in something higher. When we acknowledge we need healing from an issue and accept and allow we are open to universal magic. Continue reading “EFT Works And I Don’t Need To Know How”

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Is There An Alternative To Counselling?

alternative photoWhenever there’s a crisis in their lives many people in Brighton turn to counselling for help. It’s our experience that counselling certainly helps and people who have come to us from Brighton and the surrounding area have confirmed this. However, many of them have also revealed that they feel counselling hasn’t helped them long term and in fact, after a while they feel like they are just going around in circles.

Continue reading “Is There An Alternative To Counselling?”

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EFT offer in Brighton and Hove from Hove Stressbusters

If you would like to try EFT and live in Brighton or Hove (or the surrounding area), we’re offering one session or a series of four sessions at 30% off as part of the Hove Stressbusters community. There are a number of other therapies on offer from the voucher below…..

 

hovestressbusters deal

 

Hove Stressbusters are a community of like-minded therapists from Brighton, Hove and other parts of Sussex who have come together to offer talks and affordable treatments and workshops. Talks on Yoga, Mindfullness, NLP, EFT and many more are offered by experienced practitioners. They are fun, inspiring and include useful exercises.

For information about Hove Stressbusters visit http://www.hovestressbusters.co.uk/ For more on EFT visit: http://www.alternative2counselling.co.uk/emotional-freedom-technique-eft/

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It Makes Sense To Work From The Heart

Heart Energy ImageIt is a true saying that ‘the heart knows’. It makes sense to work with someone who encourages us to work from the heart. The electrical impulse of the heart is 40 – 60 times stronger than that of the brain. In fact, it has the strongest electrical impulse in the body and can be measured a distance of at least three feet away from the body.

Our hearts are where our real feelings lie. Continue reading “It Makes Sense To Work From The Heart”

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Is The Counselling Chair You Sit On Anchoring Your Negative Feelings?

The counselling chair can become an anchor for negative emotions imageWhen you go to see a counsellor, and let’s face it everyone does these days, you get the chance to tell someone about the problems you have in your life. Initially, counselling can be a wonderful way to relieve the burden and stress you feel, but how about the long term effects?

I’ve heard so many people who have received counselling tell me that after the initial high of feeling listened to they seemed to relive the same problem over and over again. In fact, when you talk about your problems over time they get worse. The counselling chair you sit on becomes an anchor the very sight of which may remind you of your problems. Continue reading “Is The Counselling Chair You Sit On Anchoring Your Negative Feelings?”

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Are you limiting your healing potential?

About EFTI’m often asked what I can heal people of, or what my success rate is. My answer to this is ‘I don’t heal anyone and the success rate is not mine. It doesn’t and never will belong to me’. What’s more, if someone tells you that they can heal your issue then they are coming from ego and your potential for healing will be limited.

As EFT therapists we don’t heal anyone. We may think we do and go around wearing our high success rate like a badge of honour. If we do this we are missing an opportunity for our own growth as a therapist and more importantly for our clients healing. Continue reading “Are you limiting your healing potential?”

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…And The Dyslexia’s Gone

after using eft the dyslexia is goneWinston, one of my wife’s massage clients expressed an interest in EFT. He asked if it would work on Dyslexia – a problem that he felt had held him back for much of his life. I explained a little bit about how EFT works and he booked a session.

During the session he told me that he had so many fears around reading and he couldn’t remember a time when he had been able to read without having the Dyslexia issue. Continue reading “…And The Dyslexia’s Gone”

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You Can Access The Subconscious Mind Through The Emotions

we learn how to be an adult in childhoodUsing energy therapies like EFT and Matrix Reimprinting you can access the subconscious mind through the emotions. The subconscious mind stores patterns and beliefs that were learned a long time ago and runs the show. You can use the conscious mind to focus on positive thoughts but that takes so much effort and is in fact impossible, once you are ‘off-guard’ your subconscious mind will kick-in again.

As humans we are endowed with the ability to download large amounts of information to our memory. According to cell biologist Dr Bruce Lipton ‘Ongoing research suggests that a key understanding of how this rapid downloading of information works is the brain’s fluctuating electrical activity as measured by electroencephalograms (or EEGs). EEGs are basically ‘head pictures’ that reveal a graded range of activity of our brains. Continue reading “You Can Access The Subconscious Mind Through The Emotions”