Our relationships are a reflection from our mirror into life. Replaying memories in our subconscious mind creates the way we lives our lives and attracts others towards us. If you’re having relationship problems then you, or rather memories that you have no direct access to in your subconscious mind, have created them. This sentence may be difficult for you to read. You may want to leave this page, but just think about it for a moment….
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world
When you’re in a relationship with someone you are not seeing that person for who they really are. You are seeing your own belief system, memories, data whatever you want to call it projected onto them.
We carry around a load of memories that heavily influence our everyday lives. Every second 11 millions bits of information shoot along our brain’s pathways. These get filtered down to at best 40 bits that reach our awareness. When we go for talk therapy or counselling and try and talk about what is happening to us we are expressing only a filtered version of how we really feel and the counsellor can only use this as a reference point.
Our brains make decisions based on memories all the time and we haven’t got a clue as to why we react the way we do because our subconscious mind runs the show not our logical or conscious mind. When we have trouble in any relationship we need to look within. It isn’t really about the other person, they play a role that we have created for them. We need them in our lives in order to let go of whatever issue we need to let go of.
We offer relationship therapy in Brighton that doesn’t require marriage guidance counselling, it requires a commitment from you. You will learn simple but effective techniques that will allow you to take charge of your own lives and in essence your relationships will change because of this.
To book a relationship therapy free 20 minute consultation call us on Brighton 01273 241204 or 07533 991 731 (mob) or email: emoshift@yahoo.co.uk
Take 100% responsibility for the events in your life and be grateful for them
If you recognise an event in your lives they must be within us become 100% responsible for the events in your life (and this includes our relationships) those events won’t happen anymore. The dramas will stop. To recognise them in our lives they must be within us. We just project them outwards and the people in our lives show us what we need to work on by playing out those events in front of us.
We should be grateful to those we find ourselves in conflict with. They show us what we need to work on for our greater good.
If we don’t take responsibility for them the same events will follow us around, and with different people. We will choose another partner based on what our subconscious mind thinks we need. Like some grand computer it will formulate a programme and submit those forty bits of logic. We will choose a new partner and the conflicts will happen again.
We may go for marriage guidance counselling and blame our partner for our woes. Yet, we are seeing the world from our ’40 bits’. The marriage counsellor will feed back our view of the world to us using their 40 bits. Yet, it is a false and distorted view of the world. So, we will both end up going round in circles.
Own the movie, take responsibility and love yourself
Of course our partners push our buttons and are a pain in the butt. They are a real life movie of something we don’t want to admit to. A movie we created. A movie that shows ourselves in a bad light because what we need to work on we see in them. It’s like looking in a mirror.
Own the movie, take responsibility for your part. Love yourself – that part of you that is real and not based on lies. If we aren’t seeing harmony then we are seeing lies. It begins and ends with ourselves.
For a free 20 minute consultation or if you’d like to go ahead and book a one hour taster session at our Brighton practice then please call – Brighton 01273 241204, 07533 991 731 or email: emoshift@yahoo.co.uk